Things to Budget for a Jewish Wedding That You May Have Overlooked – Smashing the Glass

One of the most challenging aspects of planning a wedding is budgeting. Figuring out how much you have to spend, breaking it down by category, and then continually monitoring your progress as you book each supplier… it’s a lot to think about!

But all that hard work can only go so far if you forget to include certain key items in your budget from the beginning. It’s like anything in life – you have to start with good foundations, otherwise it can all come tumbling down.

So, here are some examples for you of items that I commonly see omitted from an original budget document.

Jasmin and Brett‘s Osea Island UK Jewish wedding, planned by Michelle! Photo by Claudine Hartzel

Ceremony Costs

Couples – when costing out their wedding – often look at the wedding reception costs only and forget about the main event!!  After all, your guests are joining you to witness your marriage.  Everything that follows is simply a celebration of this, and your marriage ceremony does come with its own costs.  These can include:

• Synagogue membership fees (often a stipulation if the rabbi at your family Synagogue is marrying you)
• Fees charged by the rabbi
• Chazan, musicians and/orchoir
• Sound system for the ceremony – not always available at the synagogue so if you are having musicians at your ceremony you might need to hire in a PA system.
• Chuppah hire as well as the chuppah flowers
• Any other ceremony decoration
• Kippot and order or service booklets (if applicable or required)
• Transport from the ceremony to the wedding reception (if you decide to provide this for your guests)
• Chair hire and set up (eg for an outdoor ceremony at your wedding venue)
• The cost of your civil wedding, which you will require in addition to your Jewish wedding 

Paige and Richard‘s Jewish wedding at the Great Synagogue of Florence, planned by Michelle! Photo by David Bastianoni

Catering

Your caterer might have sent you an initial set of sample menus with per person pricing, but have they included:

• Furniture hire if not available at your venue (ie tables and chairs) and do they charge extra to set these up for you
• Linen upgrades (perhaps their per person cost includes for basic white linen and you would like to introduce more of a luxury feel or colour)
• Tableware and glassware upgrades
• Kitchen set up costs (if you are using a dry hire venue with no catering kitchen)
• Transport costs for their team (if you are using a venue which is not local to their base)
• “Crew meals” -you are not expected to pay to feed the caterers staff,  but you will need to pay to feed all of your other suppliers including your band, your photographers and videographers, your wedding planners etc.  Usually caterers will charge a reduced fee for a simpler meal, although you should expect to provide a hot meal as it is always a long day for the supplier team and a decent meal is considered essential.

Michelle helped Emma and Pete plan a Mary Poppins-themed wedding – talk about a Jewish wedding that’s totally them! Photo by Claudine Hartzel

Venue

Do make sure you check your venue hire contract carefully.  In particular you need to consider:

• What time are your suppliers allowed access,and if earlier access will be required is this possible and will they charge extra for it
• Likewise the breakdown and de-rig at the end;how long do they allow for this,  is it a sufficient amount of time and if not, will there be an extra fee for a later finish
• What time must your wedding end; can you extend for a fee?And if so, how much?
• Which spaces are included?Does this include for all of your requirements including a green room for the band and other suppliers (ie photographers and videographers), a room for your Tisch, a room for your Bedeken?  Is there any extra charge for additional rooms?

Stephanie and Dan‘s Jewish wedding in Tuscany, planned by Michelle! Photo by David Bastianoni

Flowers

A florist might provide you with a ball-park cost for decorating your Chuppah and for your table centrepieces, but does the fee include:

• Delivery and set up
• Returning at the end to collect the vases, candelabras, tea light holders etc and break down the chuppah
• Breakages of vases, tea light holders etc

Claudia and James‘s Jewish wedding in Mykonos, planned by Michelle! Photo by Anna Roussos

Entertainment and Production

You have decided on a band and agreed a fee with them.  But I am afraid that is not all.  Their fee may or may not include their sound system, but it definitely won’t include:

• Stage
• Dance floor
• Lighting

If you book a large showband they will have certain requirements regarding their stage and lighting so do make sure you talk to them about these things sooner rather than later and build them into your budget.

Chloe and Danny‘s Tuscan Jewish wedding, planned by Michelle! Photo by David Bastianoni

Event Day Stationery

Everyone thinks about invitations, but often the cost of event day stationery is omitted from the initial budget.  Compared to other items, we are not talking about huge sums of money, but nevertheless you do need to budget for at least some of the following items:

• Some form of seating plan or escort cards
• Place name cards
• Menus
• Reserved seating signs for your ceremony
• Order of service/marriage ceremony booklets
• Wedding day signage

Paige and Richard‘s Jewish wedding at the Great Synagogue of Florence, planned by Michelle! Photo by David Bastianoni

Clothing and Attire

Whilst most of you will think about your wedding dress,  don’t forget about your accessories:

• Veil
• Shoes
• Underwear
• Jewellery

Equally, don’t forget about your partner’s attire;  and your attendants. Will you be paying for your bridesmaids’ and groomsmen’s dresses and suits? If so, do set a budget for these.

Stephanie and Dan‘s Jewish wedding in Tuscany, planned by Michelle! Photo by David Bastianoni

Hair and Makeup

Specialist wedding hair and makeup artists will set aside the full day for your wedding and will charge a fee accordingly.

And if you have a large bridal party – all requiring hair and makeup services –  not only do you need to add in for the cost of this  –  but also the time.

Your bridal party may be paying for their own styling (in which case their costs do not need to be added to your budget)  but do bear in mind that you may need to bring in a team of hair and makeup artists in order to ensure everyone is ready in plenty of time.

Jasmin and Brett‘s Osea Island UK Jewish wedding, planned by Michelle! Photo by Claudine Hartzel

Gifts

If you are planning to purchase gifts for your bridal party and groomsmen, it’s always a good idea to set a budget for these. Likewise other gifts, including favours.

Paige and Richard‘s Jewish wedding at the Great Synagogue of Florence, planned by Michelle! Photo by David Bastianoni

Accommodation and Travel

If you are not marrying close to home,  don’t forget to budget for accommodation and travel costs –  not only for your wedding but also for any planning trips and meetings.

Candy and Sam‘s Jewish wedding at the St Pancras Renaissance Hotel in London, planned by Michelle! Photo by Pippa Mackenzie Photography

To conclude, my general advice to all couples is to always start off the planning process by agreeing an overall budget.  Add in a 10 or 20 percent contingency but try as much as you can to remain within your budget.  It’s only when you give due respect to a budget that there is the possibility of staying within it.  When we hear about wedding costs escalating out of control, this usually happens when no initial budget has been set or when there is no attempt to control or adhere to a budget. 

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